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W co grają ludzie. Psychologia stosunków międzyludzkich

W co grają ludzie. Psychologia stosunków międzyludzkich

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  • Create Date：2021-09-09 09:56:14
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  • Author：Eric Berne
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Summary

Książka znanego psychiatry amerykańskiego o wielkich walorach dydaktycznych。 Przedstawia zagadnienie stosunków międzyludzkich w kategoriach tzw。 analizy transakcyjnej。 Omawia typowe sytuacje społeczne， ujmując je w konwencji "gier"。 Uczy sposobów poprawy wzajemnych kontaktów między ludźmi， pozwalając czytelnikowi lepiej zrozumieć zarówno siebie， jak i drugiego człowieka。

W książce przedstawiono 30 typowych sytuacji społecznych， analizując je w konwencji tzw。 "gier"。

Pozycja składa się z 3 części:

część 1 zawiera teorię potrzebną do analizy i jasnego zrozumienia gier，
część 2 prezentuje opisy poszczególnych gier，
część 3 mieści w sobie materiał kliniczny i teoretyczny， który pozwala zrozumieć， co znaczy być wolnym od gry。

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Reviews

Ed Smith ，

This one was tougher than I was expecting， perhaps because it was written more for licensed therapists and the sort as opposed to the laity。 What I was able to understand， though， I found rang true。 I would have enjoyed more thorough discussions and explanations of each of the games referred to in the title。If I remember anything from this one in the long term， it will probably be the idea that we generally function from one of three places during any interaction with another human: the child， t This one was tougher than I was expecting， perhaps because it was written more for licensed therapists and the sort as opposed to the laity。 What I was able to understand， though， I found rang true。 I would have enjoyed more thorough discussions and explanations of each of the games referred to in the title。If I remember anything from this one in the long term， it will probably be the idea that we generally function from one of three places during any interaction with another human: the child， the parent， or the adult。 We can even toggle back and forth across roles during the same interaction。 The goal， of course， is to have the adult functioning as much as possible。 Let me wish us all luck with that。 。。。more

Hamish ，

Quite badly written。 Concepts are referenced before being introduced。 Prose intermixed with lists and forms in a clumsy way。 Not much in the way of summaries， conclusions， or other telegraphing。 Tangents are given more space than key points。The idea of ego states is quite interesting。 When acting as an intelligent agent， a person is in the "adult" ego state， but in triggering situations they may enter the "parent" or "child" ego states and channel the spirit of their parent（s） or of themself as Quite badly written。 Concepts are referenced before being introduced。 Prose intermixed with lists and forms in a clumsy way。 Not much in the way of summaries， conclusions， or other telegraphing。 Tangents are given more space than key points。The idea of ego states is quite interesting。 When acting as an intelligent agent， a person is in the "adult" ego state， but in triggering situations they may enter the "parent" or "child" ego states and channel the spirit of their parent（s） or of themself as a child。 This can be seen in Friends when Rachel yells at Joey for sailing the boat wrong then says "Oh my God， I've become my father"。 I've seen a something pretty similar myself， so I reckon this idea has some legs （at least the parent ego state part）。I like the idea of this book。 The promise is that it will tell you the mechanics of disingenuous behaviour intended to bait another person into playing a certain role。 And once you understand the mechanics， you can avoid the trap and expose the deception。 For example， in "look how hard I'm trying" a husband who wants divorce drags their feet through a few couples therapy sessions then gives up and goes fishing。 In exacerbation， the wife now files the divorce， while the husband is able to maintain a moral highground of "having tried to go along with the therapy but it didn't work"。 The therapist may undermine this game by immediately sending the husband away until he's "ready to take this seriously"。But because of the aforementioned bad writing， I normally have to read over each section a few times to actually understand the content。 And interesting though the content is， it's not so compelling that I want to actually make the effort。 。。。more

Leon Adeyemi ，

Interesting bookInteresting book， I would recommend， but can come across a little complex to the untrained eye such as mine， would be a book I would read again though。

Hattie ，

Part interesting， part complete gobbledegook

Gina Fae ，

Life changing book

Kristen ，

Pretty dense reading。 But interesting。 You’ll definitely see a bit of yourself and people you know in here。

Piyush Rana ，

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 It was like I was doing the dissertation of the games people play during different time， with different people and at different situations。 But the most hard hitting part of the book was the last chapter called Autonomy。In where Eric Berne goes on to talk about how every thoughts， opinions and ideas are second-hand， and we are merely just replicating it with our unique individualistic personality。 Loved it。

Bexen ，

I was very excited at the beginning of the book， I found the theory proposed fascinating and the first descriptions of games really interesting。 Later I lost some of my interest as the descriptions of games turned less detailed， probably because they didn't know much more about them at the time。 Also after my initial enthusiasm I might have realized that the theory cannot be universally applied to everything we do in life， which is fine， the book still gives us a lot of insight to understand our I was very excited at the beginning of the book， I found the theory proposed fascinating and the first descriptions of games really interesting。 Later I lost some of my interest as the descriptions of games turned less detailed， probably because they didn't know much more about them at the time。 Also after my initial enthusiasm I might have realized that the theory cannot be universally applied to everything we do in life， which is fine， the book still gives us a lot of insight to understand our daily life behaviour。 I really liked the final chapters， though very short and undeveloped， they give us some interesting ideas about how to live a more conscious life。I totally understand the critics about the dated race and sex ideas， but they are a product of their time， the author seems quite a reasonable person that would and I'm sure he would have changed his mind to our current standards， had he lived today。 。。。more

Koh Grace ，

a bit Freudian and esoteric but was kind of interesting。 can do a KI paper on whether it’s really JTB but i found a lot of correspondence to reality （in a layman kinda way）particularly useful if you want to know how to play hard to get and get Him/Her to notice u :）

Valerie Pate ，

My current therapist is from the school of Transactional Therapy， and so I picked up this book - thinking I might read up on it and get a deeper grasp， as it has helped me so much。 I was aware that it was a therapy developed in the late 50's/early 60's and that some of language would seem outdated。The blurbs on the cover made the book sound very resourceful and accessible， with a recommendation from none other than Kurt Vonnegut！ In actual fact， however， I found the book very dry and more than j My current therapist is from the school of Transactional Therapy， and so I picked up this book - thinking I might read up on it and get a deeper grasp， as it has helped me so much。 I was aware that it was a therapy developed in the late 50's/early 60's and that some of language would seem outdated。The blurbs on the cover made the book sound very resourceful and accessible， with a recommendation from none other than Kurt Vonnegut！ In actual fact， however， I found the book very dry and more than just a little outmoded。 Some of the scenarios were quite sexist by today's standards and I bristled at that more than I thought I would。For its time， I guess it was cutting edge stuff， but now I feel that it could do with a rewrite for modern times。I'm still a fan of the therapy， just not this particular book。 I have another one to try by a different author， we'll see if that one holds up any better。 。。。more

Prishita ，

We often hear people saying "please understand where I am coming from" in a conversation。 This book helps you to do exactly that， it helps you to understand where people are coming from， psychologically while expressing themselves。Games people play is divided into three parts。 The first part talks about different ego states we have - parent， adult and child and all three ego states are equally necessary for our survival。 Everyone carries their parents around inside of them in some form， " I was We often hear people saying "please understand where I am coming from" in a conversation。 This book helps you to do exactly that， it helps you to understand where people are coming from， psychologically while expressing themselves。Games people play is divided into three parts。 The first part talks about different ego states we have - parent， adult and child and all three ego states are equally necessary for our survival。 Everyone carries their parents around inside of them in some form， " I was taught to do this a certain way" or " I have seen my parents struggle because they did this a certain way"。 Child in many ways， is the most valuable part of the personality and can contribute to an individual's life exactly what an actual child can contribute to family life-charm， pleasure and creativity。 Meanwhile the adult processes data and computes the probabilities which are essential for dealing with the outside world effectively。The second part of the book talks about the various games played by humans in different social settings and this is the most consuming part of the book because you would be revisiting your social conversations and analysing them in a new light and perspective。 Here "games" refers to the most common statements people say， for example "see what you made me do"， "Look how hard I've tried！"， etc。 The third and the last part of the book deals with the significance of these games and how awareness and spontaneity is as important and often more rewarding than the "games people play"。 。。。more

Costin Cocioaba ，

Recenzia pe blog: https://costin。ro/jocurile-noastre-to。。。«Jocurile noastre de toate zilele» este o super-carte， acel gen de carte pe care o poți reciti oricând。 Și ai să o faci nu numai pentru că este interesantă și poți înțelege， de exemplu， de ce jumătatea ta din casă o ia razna într-o seară și-ți face creierii firimituri din 10 fraze， ci și pentru că vei descoperi multe lucuri despre tine pe care nu ți le puteai explica， iar la unele vei lucra ulterior pentru a le schimba。 :））Nu am să dau ni Recenzia pe blog: https://costin。ro/jocurile-noastre-to。。。«Jocurile noastre de toate zilele» este o super-carte， acel gen de carte pe care o poți reciti oricând。 Și ai să o faci nu numai pentru că este interesantă și poți înțelege， de exemplu， de ce jumătatea ta din casă o ia razna într-o seară și-ți face creierii firimituri din 10 fraze， ci și pentru că vei descoperi multe lucuri despre tine pe care nu ți le puteai explica， iar la unele vei lucra ulterior pentru a le schimba。 :））Nu am să dau niciun spoiler （nu am făcut-o nici în recenzie， link în comentarii）， dar îți garantez că vei putea identifica ce «jocuri» joacă atât cei apropiați ție， cât și colegii de la birou， vecinii， participanții la o petrecere， ori oameni random de pe stradă， pe care-i auzi vorbind între ei， majoritatea jocurilor explicate în carte fiind "jocuri de manevră"， cu strategii care nu au fost și nu vor fi niciodată sincere， ci doar。。。 mutări într-un joc。Atât de bună este cartea asta。 Este una dintre cărțile ce trebuie citite prin facultate și o recomand tuturor， Berne （autorul） făcându-se vinovat de imprimarea unei noi direcții în psihologie， direcție ale cărei idei， astăzi， sunt atât de larg răspândite căci nici nu se mai știe originea lor。 Conceptele lui Berne sunt utilizate astăzi în psihoterapie individuală， de grup și maritală， în dezvoltarea organizațională， consiliere psihologică și psihologie educațională。Spor！ 。。。more

Luiz Fabricio Calland Cerqueira ，

I enjoyed the first part， which the author explains transactional theory。 I didn´t know it and seemed something I could use with little effort with patients。 When we get to the second part， is quite obvious that this books aged poorly。 Sexist almost all the time， and brushes of other forms of bigotry here and there。 No wonder the matrix example is always Mister White。 Hardly a coincidence。。。 But the games， despite their ubiquity， are gross oversimplifications of the players mental lifes。 As I ad I enjoyed the first part， which the author explains transactional theory。 I didn´t know it and seemed something I could use with little effort with patients。 When we get to the second part， is quite obvious that this books aged poorly。 Sexist almost all the time， and brushes of other forms of bigotry here and there。 No wonder the matrix example is always Mister White。 Hardly a coincidence。。。 But the games， despite their ubiquity， are gross oversimplifications of the players mental lifes。 As I admit some of the roles felt "to the point"， the motivations and reinforcements are something to be analysed in each case。 In many of his case studies， I could nominate examples in my clinic experience in which the behaviours were similar but the motivations were completely different。 It felt like "their subconcious manouvres them like that because I， the author， say so"。 。。。more

Ayca Isci ，

A distinctive approach， but some of his ideas are already obsolete。

Waseem ，

This book was slightly over my head - written like notes and references making the content harder to comprehend if your not naturally akin to this topic and method of learning - psychiatry am assuming。But somewhere reading between the lines I think I got some grasp of the content - interesting read and reminder the weird way of certain groups in human nature - certainly have seen people play weird games and it makes me wonder if it’s bi-polar issues or just like this book suggests - some people This book was slightly over my head - written like notes and references making the content harder to comprehend if your not naturally akin to this topic and method of learning - psychiatry am assuming。But somewhere reading between the lines I think I got some grasp of the content - interesting read and reminder the weird way of certain groups in human nature - certainly have seen people play weird games and it makes me wonder if it’s bi-polar issues or just like this book suggests - some people just like to play games！…（which are explained somewhat but still leaves one wondering to the mental gymnastics we can play with one another） To Our Continued Success！Seemy http://www。WaseemMirza。net 。。。more

herma ，

found out about this book in my podcast listening era。 to be very honest listening about it being discussed was much interesting than actually reading it。 felt like a school textbook sometimes but really the matters written about are very （sort of） life changing :））

Voltaire ，

this was one of my favs when I was 13thank god I learnt to think more criticallybig EW。

Stacy ，

Somewhat difficult to follow as it reads like a text book。 I just have to think there are clearer ways of communicating this information， to make it more appealing and understandable。

Holly ，

This is quite dated， but the general concept that people play games socially is interesting and seemingly on point。 Take it with a grain of salt and it can give you a few hours of entertainment and possible self reflection。

Alessio D'Avino ，

Watch me iniziare a studiare Psicologia。 Un libro estremamente interessante che svela aspetti delle interazioni umane di cui tutti noi dovremmo tener conto。

Martina ，

Pokud chcete nahlednout do hlubin lidske psychiky a pitvat se ve svem vlastni "ja"， tak stoji kniha za precteni。 Lidem s nizsi socialni a spolecenskou inteligenci by mohla byt ku prospechu ve smyslu， jak jednat v urcitych vztazich Pokud chcete nahlednout do hlubin lidske psychiky a pitvat se ve svem vlastni "ja"， tak stoji kniha za precteni。 Lidem s nizsi socialni a spolecenskou inteligenci by mohla byt ku prospechu ve smyslu， jak jednat v urcitych vztazich 。。。more

Bec ，

While this book does offer interesting thought on relationships and psychological theory， it is very opinion based rather than factual。 The author， while understandably being a product of his time， surrounded his theories based on cultural convenience。 His relationship game examples seem to stem more from cultural gender roles than actual psychological functions and evidence based theory which was disappointing。 Once I got passed the initial ego theory it was very hard to push through and read o While this book does offer interesting thought on relationships and psychological theory， it is very opinion based rather than factual。 The author， while understandably being a product of his time， surrounded his theories based on cultural convenience。 His relationship game examples seem to stem more from cultural gender roles than actual psychological functions and evidence based theory which was disappointing。 Once I got passed the initial ego theory it was very hard to push through and read on as， with modern day knowledge of basic psychology， his gender roles and theories based on them where quite exhausting。 For example， his housewife examples of how the wife is happier being dominated by her husband as he knows best were really just a reflection of his context。 In China， during the same time period， relationship dynamics where very different to American ones。 His “psychological theory” is more a reflection of his time and attitudes than actual scientific thought and processes。 His Frued like approach to classify human behavior into three categories is interesting and I would have like to seen more evidence based theory on it rather than his own opinions and assumptions。 This is because a lot of his assumptions lack scientific evidence and instead relied on cultural attitudes of the time which we now know are not helpful （such as believing women were only equipped to household duties）。An interesting read if you want a window into American 1960’s psychology but it’s really not substantiated by evidence。 Personally， if you are looking for a book on the psychological study of relationships， modern works would probably be a better way to go as science and medicine has progressed tremendously since then。 。。。more

Wendy Charlton ，

An excellent and accessible read about Transactional Analysis that describes where your beliefs about yourself come from and the roles you play in different relationships shaping your behaviours and decisions

Steve Dragon ，

I think the primary value of reading this text is historical。 It’s a snapshot of psychology in the 1960s， it illustrates some of the ideas that preceded modern ideas。 If one reads this for theoretical knowledge， it needs to be looked at very critically with a modern eye。 The simple fact is， we know much more about human behaviour today than we did 60 years ago。 We have much more information as to what motivates people， the kind of things that impact thinking and behaviour。 We know how important I think the primary value of reading this text is historical。 It’s a snapshot of psychology in the 1960s， it illustrates some of the ideas that preceded modern ideas。 If one reads this for theoretical knowledge， it needs to be looked at very critically with a modern eye。 The simple fact is， we know much more about human behaviour today than we did 60 years ago。 We have much more information as to what motivates people， the kind of things that impact thinking and behaviour。 We know how important biological factors are （something the book doesn’t really seem to account for）。 Plus， terminology has completely changed。 Also worth mentioning is that fact that the opinions regarding sex， gender and orientation， as well as other cultures， is outdated。 Very Freudian in some ways， but that ties back to how this review started。 It’s a historic book， it’s a snapshot of the past。 Like Freud himself， it has very flawed conceptions in places， ideas that have been refuted or replaced in modern theory， but it is still important if you want to understand the history of modern theory。 Transactional Analysis is a place psychologists still draw from in some ways， and there are select insights that are quite interesting。 There is a lot of observations Berne makes and lists， and applying modern theories to them is fascinating。 It’s a matter of expectations。 In a field so young and rapidly changing， where the fundamentals are barely established， a 60-year-old book will not give you the best information per se if you’re trying to understand why we behave the way we do in social situations。 If you’re interested in psychology and know the basics of modern cognitive theory， it’s worth reading to see where the field was 60 years ago。 If not （or if you’re just not interested in the historical patterns）， then it’s probably better to start with a more modern textbook or publication。 。 。。。more

Julissa Dantes-castillo ，

Games People Play is an incredible work of psychiatry investigationI love the exposition of transactional aspect of the human connections and how he uses that to frame the games people play。 The book structure is very concise， and even if its a short book it is a masterpiece in understanding human behavior。My only complain relays on the examples of the games， I understand them， but I can see people mistaking the example for other situations that are not games and thinking some behaviours are inv Games People Play is an incredible work of psychiatry investigationI love the exposition of transactional aspect of the human connections and how he uses that to frame the games people play。 The book structure is very concise， and even if its a short book it is a masterpiece in understanding human behavior。My only complain relays on the examples of the games， I understand them， but I can see people mistaking the example for other situations that are not games and thinking some behaviours are invalid since not everybody takes into account that for it to be a game the players must be represented。 。。。more

Tomasz ，

A decent book about human behaviour， there are some interesting insights， but the book is too academic。 Sometimes concepts are really shallow， sometimes hard to understand if you do not possess any psychological background。 Interesting point of view for humans， but。。。 I find it only interesting， without being useful in my work or life。

Alex ，

Worth getting/revisiting a print copy rather than relying on the audiobook

Bubbleski ，

Besides sexist and homophobic part it was quite good。

Reix ，

A different an interesting point of view，although the book is boring and not very useful。

Alice ，

'Games People Play' is a very good book to read for anyone interested in psychology， particularly clinical psychology and therapy。 It opened my eyes to common social occurrences that people often find themselves in and how to break the perennial repetition of such occurrences， rather than playing people's self-destructive games。 I would even say this book is useful for self-development， as you may discover that you are playing an agent within a game that is harmful。 A bit more information on Gam 'Games People Play' is a very good book to read for anyone interested in psychology， particularly clinical psychology and therapy。 It opened my eyes to common social occurrences that people often find themselves in and how to break the perennial repetition of such occurrences， rather than playing people's self-destructive games。 I would even say this book is useful for self-development， as you may discover that you are playing an agent within a game that is harmful。 A bit more information on Game Theory as a more general area of study could have been discussed in the introduction。 Perhaps this book may be more useful to someone AFTER they have already read a book on the introduction to game theory。 。。。more

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